How to arrange a funeral yourself: Organising a funeral service
Our attended funeral allows you the freedom to arrange a funeral yourself, with a funeral service in the chapel, as you would have with a traditional funeral.
With a Simplicity Cremation, there's no need to follow tradition. Our attended funeral encourages you to organise a ceremony, befitting of your loved one's life and character of your loved, and should be personalised to then.
There is no procession, hearses, limousines or what we would describe as a pre-ceremony. The coffin will be resting in the chapel when you arrive at the crematorium ready for you to hold the funeral service itself.
Honouring life with personal touches and details can create a meaningful and lasting remembrance, whether that's by adding small details or planning a more elaborate affair; how the service is planned is completely up to you.
Who will lead the funeral service?
The most important thing to consider when arranging a funeral yourself is who will conduct the service. Anyone can lead a funeral service, so it may be a nice touch to choose a close friend or family member.
We can also provide guidance on finding a minister or officiant in your area, if you'd like a religious figure to lead the ceremony or something a bit more formal.
As with any funeral service, there will be a limit on the length of time allowed in the chapel. We’d recommend planning for around thirty minutes, so there’s ample time to enter and exit the crematorium without feeling rushed.
Add personal touches
We’ve highlighted some of the most popular ways to personalise a funeral service below. You may have other ideas, especially if your loved one had any special hobbies or interests.
Music is the main way to personalise a funeral service. All of our crematoria feature a music system so you will have the ability to arrange a playlist of songs to play inside the chapel. It can be a nice touch to have your loved ones favourite song playing as you enter or exit the chapel. Should you arrange a religious ceremony, you may also want to incorporate hymns into the service. For ideas, read our guide to the best funeral songs.
It is common to feature a eulogy as part of the order of service, in tribute to your loved one. You should consider asking someone who knew them well so they’ll be able to write something appropriate. It can be quite an honour to be asked to speak at a funeral, although some people may prefer not to, as it can take a lot of confidence to stand up and speak in front of a large congregation. You may find our guide to writing a eulogy helpful.
You may also want to include readings in the service. If religious readings weren’t in the interests of your loved one such as a meaningful poem, a reading from their favourite book or even lyrics from a song, could be more appropriate. A member of the family may even decide to write a poem dedicated to their loved one. See our list of popular funeral readings.
There are lots of ways of sharing memories at a funeral, a photo memory board can be a nice touch for everyone to share photos of happy times with the departed. By asking family and friends for pictures, you should hopefully collect a range of photos covering the course of their life, as different people might have known them best at certain stages throughout their lifetime. This is a nice way to highlight the person’s life and accomplishments.
Taking this one step further, you could dedicate part of the service so mourners can share memories and stories with the congregation. In a 2018 independent survey, 41% of people said they’d like a family member or friend to share a loving story about them at their funeral. Alternatively, you could leave paper and pen on seats so guests have the opportunity to write memories and place into a memory box at the end of the service, for you to read at a later date.
Opting for alternative funeral attire is a really easy way to personalise a funeral. It’s becoming a popular request to ask mourners to dress in bright colours or even your loved one’s favourite colour, instead of traditional mourning colours. You should give guests as much notice as possible, if you wish for them to dress any differently.