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GRIEF & LOSS SUPPORT

Coping with life after the death of someone close to you can be very difficult.

GRIEF & LOSS SUPPORT

Coping with life after the death of someone close to you can be very difficult.

GUIDANCE & ADVICE

Here to help you along the way

People react in different ways to loss. Most people will grieve when they lose someone important to them, but the way grief can affect you depends on lots of things including the kind of loss you have suffered, your upbringing, your beliefs and religion, your age, your relationship with the person you’ve lost and even your mental or physical health.

Grief often brings about both physical and emotional pain. Shock, anger, sadness, guilt, regret, numbness and loneliness are some emotions that you may feel.

Unfortunately, there is no quick fix to take the pain away. Grief is something you have to work through. There is no set time to say when you will feel better. Unfortunately, some people may take a lot longer to recover than others.

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COMING TO TERMS WITH YOUR LOSS

Understanding grief

Grief is a natural response to losing someone that’s important to you. Everyone grieves in their own way; there is no right or wrong way to grieve so long as you are not harming yourself or those around you.

At first, you may feel in shock, especially if the death was unexpected. You may feel numb, or have trouble believing that the loss has really happened or even deny the truth. This is your body’s natural defense mechanism.

It will take time to understand what has happened and you may feel a great deal of pain because you have not had the chance to say goodbye.

You may find yourself expecting your loved one to suddenly arrive and hear familiar sounds like their key in the door, or feel their presence in the room. Accept these things as part of the process of grieving, which will eventually lead you through this terrible time.

Some people are affected physically by the death of their loved one. Some people can’t sit still and become hyperactive. Others have headaches, shortness of breath, chest pains, dizziness, lack of concentration or depression. Some find it difficult to sleep and some experience bad dreams.

Grieving can be exhausting both emotionally and physically, so it’s important to try and maintain a healthy lifestyle, by eating a balanced diet, exercising a little and getting enough sleep.

You should speak to your doctor if your symptoms persist over a period of time.

For many people, the pain of losing someone may make them feel the need to withdraw from social contact, feeling unable to face the outside world. You may feel like this, but grieving is difficult enough without having to do it all on your own. Now is the time to lean on the support of those that care about you most.

The most important healing can come from talking. It may help to go over what happened many times. Talking about your feelings may also help.

If talking to those close to you is too uncomfortable, you might consider joining a support group. A professional counsellor or people like the Samaritans will also have the time and understanding to talk to you. You will never get over it, but in time you will come to terms with that has happened.

Allow yourself time to grieve and adjust to your new situation. It’s not advisable to rush into making major decisions or change in your life when you are grieving, always try to take time before making decisions such as moving house.

Try to recognise the danger signs of becoming too dependent on painkillers or alcohol to numb the pain. You may find keeping a diary or writing down your thoughts helpful, you never need to show your writing to anyone.


HELPFUL ORGANISATIONS

 

Cruse Bereavement Care (England and Wales)

Cruse can help anyone who has lost someone they love.

Call: 0844 477 9400

Young persons helpline: 0808 808 1677

www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk

helpline@cruse.org.uk

Cruse Bereavement Care, PO Box 800, Richmond, Surrey, TW9 1RG

 

Cruse Bereavement Care Scotland

Call: 0845 600 2227

www.crusescotland.org.uk

info@crusescotland.org.uk

Cruse Bereavement Care Scotland, Riverview House, Friarton Road, Perth PH2 8DF

 

Samaritans

Samaritans offer a 24-hour phone listening service.

Call: 08457 90 90 90

www.samaritans.org

jo@samaritans.org

 

Citizens Advice

This is a good source of practical help and advice and is particularly helpful with financial or legal problems.

To find your nearest bureau visit www.citizensadvice.org.uk

 

The Compassionate Friends

They offer help for parents whose children have died.

Call: 0845 123 2304

www.tcf.org.uk

helpline@tcf.org.uk

The Compassionate Friends, 53 North Street, Bristol BS3 1EN

 

The Child Death Helpline

Call: 0800 282 986 (Mon to Fri 10am to 1pm, Tues and Wed 1pm to 4pm and every evening 7pm to 10pm).

www.childdeathhelpline.org.uk

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